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I am reading this right now.

It's the memoirs of a woman who moved to New York City after she graduated from college and got a job as a journalism intern at Ms. Magazine. Through this gig, she met tons of gay ladies and came out as bi.

I know that a lot of lesbian women seem to think that bi women are not legit. Actually, yesterday I was browsing the personals and I actually read an ad that stipulated, "Please don't be bi. I want someone who likes only girls."

What's up with that, lesbians? Honestly. You  guys read all the same books that I read, you have been taking all the same women's studies courses I've been taking, and despite that, you still fail to understand the concept of Fluidity.

Anyway, Jennifer Baumgardner analyzes how bisexuality has been percieved, especially since the second wave of feminism in the 60s & 70s. She writes about how many feminist women shunned their heterosexual pasts, became "political lesbians" which means you identify as a lesbian without necessarily fucking women or fantasizing about them, etc. All the other "legitimate feminists" were real lesbians who had amazing sex throughout the second wave. One of her major points is that many, many women have had sexual relationships with both men and women, but they still continue to identify as lesbians or heterosexuals. They will explain that there were exceptions, but those exceptions were circumstantial.

I wish i could understand why people are so embarrassed to identify with bisexual. All that bisexual means is that you fantasize about, are attracted to, have had intimate, sexual or emotional relationships, and/or consider yourself oriented towards both men and women.

I highly recommend Baumgardner's Look Both Ways: Bisexual Politics.